WHY CASTRATION WON'T WORK Many times, you will hear people say, "Why don't we just castrate all the sex offenders? That will do the job." But, in fact, it won't, for some very simple reasons. First, long-term studies have already shown that, in spite of all the media hype, most convicted sex offenders (up to 75% of them) do not re-offend. (Hanson, 1999). To castrate them is a waste of time. Secondly, most children are not molested by them. Most children are molested by someone they know and trust: like a friendly neighbor, down the street, or a school teacher, volunteer in some youth group or at the church. Often, unfortunately, by a relative in the family, be that an older brother, cousin, an inlaw or step-parent. Because none of them have been caught, we don't call them "sex offenders" and, as a result, 'castrating all the sex offenders' won't get them. They will still be left just as free as before. There is a better answer. Records now show that when convicted sex offenders are given exactly the kind of treatment and counseling in that is described in this book, re-offense rates are cut by 60%. (Alexander 1999). It is not terribly complicated. It isn't just a lot of theories. It is just simple, blunt honesty: making men face the reality of what they are doing, and how it is also wrecking their own lives, then training them in the steps it takes to stop doing so. That is what does it, right there. Here is the book that tells it all. In ten chapters, I relate how it happened that I became a child molester and got over it. That was almost 20 years ago now and I remain re-offense free, with no further convictions or arrests. The lessons from it that you can use to protect your children are given at the end of each chapter. If you follow them, your child will be safer than ever before. Steps that sex offenders can take to earn their way back into the community and a prescription for the healing of America conclude the work.

The readers' resources section includes a listing of further books, journals, websites, referral agencies and self-recovery organizations that may also be of use to those who want more information. Fully indexed, the book will be a useful guide in all future child sex abuse trials. If you have any questions, write me at: jake.goldenflame@gmail.com

WHY CASTRATION WON'T WORK Many times, you will hear people say, "Why don't we just castrate all the sex offenders? That will do the job." But, in fact, it won't, for some very simple reasons. First, long-term studies have already shown that, in spite of all the media hype, most convicted sex offenders (up to 75% of them) do not re-offend. (Hanson, 1999). To castrate them is a waste of time. Secondly, most children are not molested by them. Most children are molested by someone they know and trust: like a friendly neighbor, down the street, or a school teacher, volunteer in some youth group or at the church. Often, unfortunately, by a relative in the family, be that an older brother, cousin, an inlaw or step-parent. Because none of them have been caught, we don't call them "sex offenders" and, as a result, 'castrating all the sex offenders' won't get them. They will still be left just as free as before. There is a better answer. Records now show that when convicted sex offenders are given exactly the kind of treatment and counseling in that is described in this book, re-offense rates are cut by 60%. (Alexander 1999). It is not terribly complicated. It isn't just a lot of theories. It is just simple, blunt honesty: making men face the reality of what they are doing, and how it is also wrecking their own lives, then training them in the steps it takes to stop doing so. That is what does it, right there. Here is the book that tells it all. In ten chapters, I relate how it happened that I became a child molester and got over it. That was almost 20 years ago now and I remain re-offense free, with no further convictions or arrests. The lessons from it that you can use to protect your children are given at the end of each chapter. If you follow them, your child will be safer than ever before. Steps that sex offenders can take to earn their way back into the community and a prescription for the healing of America conclude the work.

The readers' resources section includes a listing of further books, journals, websites, referral agencies and self-recovery organizations that may also be of use to those who want more information. Fully indexed, the book will be a useful guide in all future child sex abuse trials. If you have any questions, write me at: jake.goldenflame@gmail.com

The law places a high value on marriage and the family. That value is carried forward in defining marriage; setting conditions for the state to interfere with marriage; fixing the responsibilities of marriage and family; and detailing when a family may break up and setting ongoing responsibilities when that happens.

But, there are limits to the law. For example, the religion of Luisa and Sam may require that they be married by a minister. It may also require that each make certain promises, one to the other. Whether Luisa and Sam do so, however, is a matter of conscience. The law will neither force them to have or stop them from having a religious wedding.

This book describes how policing has forgotten to serve and protect citizens but emphasizes technology and quick response after a crime has been committed. It has astonishingly simple new ideas about how policing could prevent crime as well as enforce laws. These radical but economical changes in policing would not only result in more respect for police by the public but would lower the crime rate by preventing crime in the first place. This seasoned veteran brings his experience to bear in tantalizing clarity as a master wordsmith. He produces a compelling case for changing even the kind of vehicles that police use today.

"Commissioner Johannes Spreen was a police officer extraordinary; a man who helped restructure and develop New York City Police Academy training leading to a college program, a 'West Point' for officers, now John Jay College for Criminal Justice. Johannes Spreen is a man of enthusiasm, indeed a prophet; always ahead of his time and brought his talent to Detroit as Police Commissioner and later Sheriff of Oakland County."
-Rudolph P. Blaum, Retired Captain, New York City Police Department, John Jay College, former president American Education Association.

This book describes how policing has forgotten to serve and protect citizens but emphasizes technology and quick response after a crime has been committed. It has astonishingly simple new ideas about how policing could prevent crime as well as enforce laws. These radical but economical changes in policing would not only result in more respect for police by the public but would lower the crime rate by preventing crime in the first place. This seasoned veteran brings his experience to bear in tantalizing clarity as a master wordsmith. He produces a compelling case for changing even the kind of vehicles that police use today.

"Commissioner Johannes Spreen was a police officer extraordinary; a man who helped restructure and develop New York City Police Academy training leading to a college program, a 'West Point' for officers, now John Jay College for Criminal Justice. Johannes Spreen is a man of enthusiasm, indeed a prophet; always ahead of his time and brought his talent to Detroit as Police Commissioner and later Sheriff of Oakland County."
-Rudolph P. Blaum, Retired Captain, New York City Police Department, John Jay College, former president American Education Association.

Divorce and Family Law in California provides a clear, concise, and complete guide to divorce and family law in California. Topics covered include: Marriage, Divorce, Annulment, Legal Separation, Property, Debts, Spousal Support, Unmarried Couples, Paternity, Custody & Visitation, Child Support, Guardianship, Adoption, Dependent Children, Children's Names, Restraining Orders.

A California attorney since 1978, Bob Pickus works for the Alameda County Employees' Retirement Association in Oakland, addressing primarily the impact of divorce on retirement benefits. He also volunteers for the Volunteer Legal Services Corporation in Oakland, providing weekly divorce and family law clinics and follow-up services for low-income persons.

Divorce and Family Law in California provides a clear, concise, and complete guide to divorce and family law in California. Topics covered include: Marriage, Divorce, Annulment, Legal Separation, Property, Debts, Spousal Support, Unmarried Couples, Paternity, Custody & Visitation, Child Support, Guardianship, Adoption, Dependent Children, Children's Names, Restraining Orders.

A California attorney since 1978, Bob Pickus works for the Alameda County Employees' Retirement Association in Oakland, addressing primarily the impact of divorce on retirement benefits. He also volunteers for the Volunteer Legal Services Corporation in Oakland, providing weekly divorce and family law clinics and follow-up services for low-income persons.

Drawing on her extensive experience in counseling families and individuals with sexual problems, psychologist Margretta Dwyer delivers a timely look at some of the sexual issues facing us today in Understand Offending.

Dwyer believes the emphasis on natural, healthy sexual development is imperative to creating an atmosphere conducive to debunking myths and false teachings on sexuality. Dwyer also focuses on those who commit sexual offences and explores the reasons behind their problems.

This detailed, practical guide explores issues facing children, teenagers, and adults in the often-confusing world of sexual behaviour. With a comprehensive glossary and an easy-to-understand format, Understand Offending unveils the misconceptions surrounding sexual offences and offers a clear path to healing through therapy.

"Readers of Dwyer's book will find a wealth of practical advice regarding the webs of sexual anguish."-Robert T. Francoeur, Ph.D., author, The Continuum Complete International Encyclopaedia of Sexuality

Drawing on her extensive experience in counseling families and individuals with sexual problems, psychologist Margretta Dwyer delivers a timely look at some of the sexual issues facing us today in Understand Offending.

Dwyer believes the emphasis on natural, healthy sexual development is imperative to creating an atmosphere conducive to debunking myths and false teachings on sexuality. Dwyer also focuses on those who commit sexual offences and explores the reasons behind their problems.

This detailed, practical guide explores issues facing children, teenagers, and adults in the often-confusing world of sexual behaviour. With a comprehensive glossary and an easy-to-understand format, Understand Offending unveils the misconceptions surrounding sexual offences and offers a clear path to healing through therapy.

"Readers of Dwyer's book will find a wealth of practical advice regarding the webs of sexual anguish."-Robert T. Francoeur, Ph.D., author, The Continuum Complete International Encyclopaedia of Sexuality

The Private Investigator's Legal Manual is written especially for California private investigators and the attorneys who hire and represent them. This is the first and only complete source for answers to the often tricky and difficult legal issues unique to California investigators.

The 300+ page Manual's ten Chapters cover more than 140 topics! It contains analysis of more than 150 court cases and 125 separate statutes and regulations of importance to California's private investigators and attorneys. The Manual also includes the full text of the most important California laws. And, it's fully indexed with nearly 900 entries for quick and easy referencing.

The Private Investigator's Legal Manual is written especially for California private investigators and the attorneys who hire and represent them. This is the first and only complete source for answers to the often tricky and difficult legal issues unique to California investigators.

The 300+ page Manual's ten Chapters cover more than 140 topics! It contains analysis of more than 150 court cases and 125 separate statutes and regulations of importance to California's private investigators and attorneys. The Manual also includes the full text of the most important California laws. And, it's fully indexed with nearly 900 entries for quick and easy referencing.

Fathers Have Rights Too— .What began as a loving reunion between father and son; becomes an intense, bitter custody dispute; including allegations of sexual abuse, child abuse, kidnapping; all which could potentially destroy the dad's life and career. After 4 years of absentee, he's back and ready to be a father. In a bazaar twist of events, the ex-wife conducts an escalating campaign to revoke his custodial rights at any cost. Fathers Have Rights Too, illustrates brutal custody events behind the scenes of divorce and the affects it has on the child and all parties involved. It makes you re-think the process and compels the question, "Is it Worth the Sacrifice?"

No matter how many divorced people you know, when you face the demoralizing prospect or grim reality, you feel alone in the world. Realizing you’re not—that many have undergone precisely your torment—is among this book’s many virtues. No divorced or divorcing sufferers will fail to find their own shock, pain and sense of failure and betrayal in these honest, deeply moving accounts by a wide range of men and women, rich and poor, angry and bewildered. They provide the reassurance of community that is needed for strength and healing; sometimes, it seems, for the will to endure.

WHY CASTRATION WON'T WORK Many times, you will hear people say, "Why don't we just castrate all the sex offenders? That will do the job." But, in fact, it won't, for some very simple reasons. First, long-term studies have already shown that, in spite of all the media hype, most convicted sex offenders (up to 75% of them) do not re-offend. (Hanson, 1999). To castrate them is a waste of time. Secondly, most children are not molested by them. Most children are molested by someone they know and trust: like a friendly neighbor, down the street, or a school teacher, volunteer in some youth group or at the church. Often, unfortunately, by a relative in the family, be that an older brother, cousin, an inlaw or step-parent. Because none of them have been caught, we don't call them "sex offenders" and, as a result, 'castrating all the sex offenders' won't get them. They will still be left just as free as before. There is a better answer. Records now show that when convicted sex offenders are given exactly the kind of treatment and counseling in that is described in this book, re-offense rates are cut by 60%. (Alexander 1999). It is not terribly complicated. It isn't just a lot of theories. It is just simple, blunt honesty: making men face the reality of what they are doing, and how it is also wrecking their own lives, then training them in the steps it takes to stop doing so. That is what does it, right there. Here is the book that tells it all. In ten chapters, I relate how it happened that I became a child molester and got over it. That was almost 20 years ago now and I remain re-offense free, with no further convictions or arrests. The lessons from it that you can use to protect your children are given at the end of each chapter. If you follow them, your child will be safer than ever before. Steps that sex offenders can take to earn their way back into the community and a prescription for the healing of America conclude the work.

The readers' resources section includes a listing of further books, journals, websites, referral agencies and self-recovery organizations that may also be of use to those who want more information. Fully indexed, the book will be a useful guide in all future child sex abuse trials. If you have any questions, write me at: jake.goldenflame@gmail.com

Fathers Have Rights Too— .What began as a loving reunion between father and son; becomes an intense, bitter custody dispute; including allegations of sexual abuse, child abuse, kidnapping; all which could potentially destroy the dad's life and career. After 4 years of absentee, he's back and ready to be a father. In a bazaar twist of events, the ex-wife conducts an escalating campaign to revoke his custodial rights at any cost. Fathers Have Rights Too, illustrates brutal custody events behind the scenes of divorce and the affects it has on the child and all parties involved. It makes you re-think the process and compels the question, "Is it Worth the Sacrifice?"